For some odd reason, I thought I had in all down in my 20′ s. Yes, naturally there were challenges and yes, I was plagued with inner turmoil and uncertainty about life, but that comes with the territory, no? Needless to say, I’ve acquired a bit more inner peace and confidence in who I am. To be frank, I’ve learned more myself in the last few years than I did as a 22-year-old trotting around Anytown USA. Nevertheless, as I head into the next chapter of my life, I’m looking back and thinking about what I’ve learned so far. Here are nine things I’ve learned so far in my 30’s. Peep the list below.
Trust Your Gut
When something isn’t right, it just isn’t right. I think its easier to push down those feelings of uneasiness and pass them off as nothing, but Y’ALL, Y’ALL. Those feelings are there are a reason. Listen to them!
Recharge and Replenish
It’s so odd to think that ten years ago, we didn’t need to be on Snapchat, Instagram, Facebook or Twitter. Seemingly, now social media and being connected, consumes every fiber of our being and admittedly it can be exhausting. Sometimes, it is important to put the phone down, sit on the couch and relax. Also, I’ve found the older I get the more I need a break. It’s okay recharge and start fresh.
Don’t Sweat The Small Stuff
Have you ever looked back at events, conversations and thought ‘what was the big deal?’ We live in a society where even the smallest of things become “a thing.” In reality, a lot of things are not that big of a deal. I truly believe that you give life to things, big or small. However, it is your choice to give them life. Given some time, a lot things are truly not that important and won’t effect you in the long run. Like I said, relax and don’t sweat the small stuff!
Routines Can Be Boring, So Mix It Up!
We all love the consistency of routine, right? I am the queen of being a creature of habit as I thought it kept me stable. Ummm..not really. I’ve learned that a routine and consistency can become very boring. It’s important to stimulate our minds and do something different occasionally. Take a different route driving home from work or sit in a different place and eat lunch. Take an overnight trip alone. Doing something different can add some newness and excitement to a routine and break the monotony.
Happiness Is Key
A lot of times you’ll hear people say “happiness is a choice” and while I believe that this is true, I think it’s more than that. Only you know what makes you happy. If you like reading in the mornings, do that. If you like taking a yoga class on Wednesday evenings, do that! Again, it’s easy to get into a routine and do what’s familiar. But as long as you’re incorporating things that are making you happy, you are ensuring that you’re truly doing certain things for you.
Toxicity and Positivity Can’t Coexist
This one is pretty simple. Yes, I believe in making the best out of a bad situation, but bad and toxic are two VERY different situations. Very rarely can a positive attitude flourish in a toxic environment. Often times, the toxicity of a situation can start to weigh on you very heavily, generally effecting almost everything in your life. You have to make a choice what you want in your life and what type of environment is best for you.
Indecision is a Choice
I get it. No one wants to make all the decisions and hold the weight of something going wrong. But for that to occur, you have to make a choice. Choosing NOT to decide is worse that making a bad decision. Most things are fixable. Plus, indecision leaves you stuck for a period and in most cases that’s not okay. Make a decision and most likely things will work out for the best.
Everything is Hard
I’m almost pretty sure everyone’s has had difficulties. Hard is hard, plain and simple. Rarely, are awards given out for making it to work on time, traveling through horrible traffic, in a thunderstorm on an empty stomach, whilst your gas tank is almost on empty. Your hard is not harder than mine, because as individuals we handle situations differently. Simply put, everything is hard and you just gotta do it.
Do it Anyway
I’ve learned that fear is the biggest dream killer. But here’s a well known secret… fear will keep you stuck in the same place. If you are scared to take that trip or go to that restaurant alone, how do you suppose you get “unscared?” Pushing past fear can be one of the most liberating and one of the best and biggest boosts of confidence.
What have been you’re most valuable lessons?